Profiling and Compatibility
Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI
Published by Anthony Iantosca, BCFE
For the International Academy of Forensic Examiners and Investigators.
Profiling and Compatibility
Are we compatible? This is a question I am asked all the time. Every personality is different. Personalities are as diverse as the colors of a rainbow. In profiling we have eight degrees of emotion from Severe Introvert to Extreme Extrovert and the six degrees in between. We all feel emotion the same but deal with those emotions differently. There is no right or wrong on how each and everyone of us deal with our emotions. The Extrovert is more expressive, the Ambivert is very cautious and controlled, the Introvert fears emotion and intense emotional interaction with others, this is very apparent when it comes to matters of the heart. There is a lot of misconceptions when talking about the Introvert personality type. They do not hide in a corner fearful of people. They can and do work well with others, are very good in their work environment. It is only when strong emotions come into play will you see a change in their behavior. Introverts were not born that way, they were made that way by cold, domineering, primary care givers. They never experienced unconditional love by their primary care givers as children. It is not that they do not have emotions they just don't trust strong emotions with others. As long as you are not trying to get close to them emotionally they are fine. Emotional pain is something the Introvert does not handle well. The way they will go through life is simple, if I don't let you get close to me, you can't hurt me. Even in marriage they have a somewhat cold detached way about them.
This is one of the main reasons there is so much misunderstanding between people and couples. Once the profiler has determined the emotional makeup of the personality the next trait is their intensity level (mental strength). There are six levels of intensity from P-1 through P-6. P=intensity level. There is a marked difference in the behavior patterns of a lighter pressured P-1,2,3 the average person in today's society is a P-3 in pressure and a heavy pressured P-4,5,6. The intensity level of the person does not mean one person is better or smarted than the other. Their intensity level is the mental strength or fuel that will drive their traits and the behavior associated with those traits for good, bad or indifferent.
The more intense the personality is the more extreme they are in their behavior. Personalities in the P-5,6 area kill a mosquito with an elephant gun. A P-3 will not understand the working mind of a P-6. These personalities work hard, play hard and are very intense sexually. Once I have evaluated their emotional make and intensity level.
Now I must identify and evaluate the traits, there are over one hundred sixteen to one hundred twenty four researched traits that have been established to be eighty five to eighty seven percent accurate with a thirteen to fifteen percent margin of error.
When I look for sexual compatibility between couples I look at their sexual imagination, there are traits that I must detect, identify, analyze and evaluate. Those traits are; is the person a loner, selective, does he/she have variety, are they overactive, are they clannish, sexually frustrated, or is the male frugal with an eye for the girls or boys what ever he is into. Each one of these traits listed behaves, acts, and expresses their sexual wants, needs and desires differently. Add their emotional makeup and their intensity level to the listed traits you can understand why there is much confusion and misunderstanding between couples.
There is no right or wrong in a persons sexual wants, needs and desires, unless their is pain involved or a person is being forced to engage in a sexual practice that he/she does not want to be involved in. There are personalities who love S&M that is fine but you must find other like minded personalities who enjoy the same practice. There are also personalities who also enjoy threesomes and foursomes nothing wrong with that either, as long as your partner is also willing to go along with that practice. This is the main reason their intensity level and the traits found in each of the partners profile must match up. Their emotional make up is also very important. The Extroverted personality type loves emotion, deals with and expresses emotion very easily they are emotional types. The emotionally controlled, Ambivert /Suppressed Ambivert or Small writer type has a distrust of intense emotions. It takes a long time for them to trust their emotions for you and for the Ambivert type to trust your emotions for them. The last thing the emotionally controlled type wants to deal with is being blind sided and hurt. It takes a very long time for them to get over that emotional hurt and they do not forget that pain over night. It takes the emotionally controlled type a long time to get involved in another serious relationship again. Unless he/she has other underlying issues which I am not talking about in this article.
The more Extroverted personality can and does move on very quickly. The emotional type also feels hurt and pain but can move on and be on a dating site looking for someone new by tomorrow morning. Ambiverts will drive that failed relationship inward blaming themselves for the failure. The Extrovert drives their pain outwardly and blames you for the failed relationship. The Ambivert personality lives by a code "what is in the best interest of everyone," the more emotional Extroverted type lives by a code " what is in the best interest of you, as long as you do things my way." With different emotional personality types communication between the two different types is very important to avoid misunderstanding and conflict.
