Intensity Part Two (2)
As I explained in yesterday article the persons intensity level does not mean one person is better than the other person. People think because my wife is more intense than I am she is better, stronger and more powerful than I am. This is not the case. Yes she is more intense, she has more drive, endurance and can carry more weight and responsibility on her shoulders. Their wants, needs and desires are very different. The main reason when I conduct a profile or teaching students I will state Intensity requires intensity between people. In my article I may use he/she pronoun, both men and women have the same intensity levels depending on what their intensity levels are.
If you are in a relationship, friends, family, etc. A person who is a P-1,2,3 in pressure is not going to understand the working mind of a P-5,6. Their intensity difference is going to cause issues within their relationships. A P-4 can understand the intensity of a P-3 and to some extent a P-5 and get along with each other. The P-5 will burn the P-4 out over an extended period of time. P-4's are very intense personalities and have a psychic gas tank that is seventy to seventy five percent full when they burn out the P-5 and P-6 still has five to ten gallons left in their psychic gas tank.
I will go into some detail on pressure differences, I live and work in the real world so some of my explanations will not be P.C. This is not to offend anyone so please understand.
When I talk to and work with women who are in the P-4,5,6 intensity levels these ladies come in hard. Believe me these ladies are not playing games. Most of the issues they are having in the work force is they are working for a manager or supervisor who got the job because of someone they knew, the manager is a light pressured or medium pressured personality who is going to be the boss over a P-4,5.6. Not going to work. The more intense personality wants to step on and crush this little creature. I have a client now who is a lovely lady, smart, intelligent, a P-5 in her intensity level, her manager is a P-3. She calls me two or three times a week. "Tony I can't take this anymore, I am going to kill this bitch." She is not playing games, she is losing her mind. My job is to keep her calm, if she loses it, believe me it will be ugly
The other issue I run into all the time is a woman who is in the P-41/2 to P-5,6 pressure range. People think they are insane or sex fiend. These personalities are intense sexually and in every aspect of their lives. Understand the more intense the personality is the more they need. This does not make it right or wrong. It is not uncommon for personalities in this pressure range to be in love with more than two or three people at the same time. Why? They have that much intensity, they have so much love to give they can love and be in love with more than one person at a time. Also they may not be able to find someone in their pressure range so they have two or three people who can offer them what they need both emotionally and sexually.
People will say "Tony that is sick, this person is sick" no they are not sick, that is how they are. A lighter pressured personality is not going to understand this concept.
I had one woman who called me and wanted a personal profile on herself. She told me she was seeing a Psychologist for over two years. She came into my office and brought four samples of her handwriting. I smiled and said this is going to be a very interesting day for you. She was an emotional extrovert with a P-6 in her pressure range. Her sexual zones were off the charts. She looked at me and asked "Tony what is wrong with me?"
I looked at her smiled and I said nothing. I had a client who was in my pressure/intensity range so I knew I could talk straight forward with her. I said to her, "I am going to explain your intensity level believe me this will clear up much of your confusion. We talked for hours. She broke down and cried, "Jesus Christ someone F*#%ing understands me." Towards the end of our conversation she said "excuse me Tony I need to make a phone call" she called her Psychologist in front of me and told him "I am done with you."
She said to me "Tony I learned more from you today than I did from my Psychologist in the two years I was paying this idiot."
What is very important to understand is the more intense personality can step down to the less intense personalities way of doing things, the less intense personality cannot step up to the more intense personalities way of doing things. You cannot put fifteen gallons of gas in a ten gallon gas tank. This does cause frustration with the more intense personality types because they are not getting satisfied in many areas of their lives. You are born with your intensity level and you will have that intensity for the rest of your lives. You cannot make yourself more intense. Intensity does not make one person better than the other. It is the difference in the wants, needs and desires between the different intensity levels, that causes the confusion and misunderstandings between people.
